Many people who come to me tell me they feel uncomfortable about seeking counselling. I understand, as before I sought counselling many years ago I felt the same way. I was worried I would be judged and felt shameful that I couldn’t solve the problems for myself.
There is also a huge stigma attached to mental health, although thank goodness that is improving with people like The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge and Prince Harry spearheading a the Heads Together campaign to end stigma around mental health.
Having found counselling so helpful for myself I realised the benefit and it was part of the reason I trained as a counsellor.
I don’t judge others, one of my mantras is
‘Don’t judge someone till you’ve walked a mile in their shoes’
Life can really throw us some curved balls, and when that happens we often find we cannot unravel it. Our heads feel like they will burst, and we can all too easily sink into depression or experience anxiety or stress.
Talking things through with someone who has no hidden agenda, and isn’t going to tell us what we should do. It’s a safe place where everything you say is confidential, and you won’t be judged.
I sometimes offer clients techniques that may also help them. I don’t have any magic wands and can’t promise that everything will be ok. But my experience over many years is that it is helpful and after working together clients generally feel better, and are more able to cope with life.
It is important that you find the right person to work with, so shop around, and ask questions. Most counsellors will offer a free consultation whether a phone call or face to face.
So do contact me if you are struggling. No problem is too small or large. If it’s affecting your life – then you probably would benefit from talking to someone.